Thursday, December 10, 2009

Winding Down...

Well, this Semester is winding down and so I'd like to add some final words. So... in conclusion, I would like to share a few of my favorite quotes from this semester with you. Some are from scriptures, from are from talks, some are from general authorities, and some are just from class. Enjoy!

-"You can never get enough of what you don't need--because what you don't need won't satisfy you"

-"Considering that pride is one of the most dangerous sins, Who is better off? The well bred and formed, or not?"

-When asked "How many people should I kiss before I get married?" Brother Williams responded "As many as you would your spouse to kiss!"

-"Words are like bullets. Once they're out of the barell, all you can do it first aid."

-"Seek first to understand, and then to be understood"

-"Love is so fundamental a gospel principle that it is almost embarrassing to mention it. It is the single identifying quality of those who love the Lord and serve him--they love on another. (John 13:35.) My only contribution is to point out that this rule applies to the members of Christ's church even if they happen to be married to each other." -One Heart Text

-"I believe that failing to charitably resolve these troublesome discrepncies is as likely to destroy a temple marriage as any other threat. By small things are great things (good and bad) accomplished." - One Heart Text

-"He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is Love" -John 4:8

Also, for all of you single ladies, if you get the chance, check out John Bytheway's talk "What I wish I knew when I was single"! It's fabulous! It talks a lot about how to cope with breakups. My favorite piece was when it talked about how when you're breaking up with someone, if it is the right thing to do, you need to trust that God will take care of that person.

I feel like one of the most important things we discussed was being the type of person that the person you want to marry would want. It's important that you are worthy of what you are looking for.

We have spent the last few classes talking about dating. The right way to do it (not just hanging out), and not necessarily just going off first impressions. We have also discussed not lowering your standards, and not settling.

I really enjoyed this class and felt like I got a lot out of it. I also have really appreciated all the feedback you have given me over the the past few months! Thank you to you all!!! So, now that all of this is coming to a close, I will ask for just one more thing. I would appreciate any advise you could give me on dating and finding "the one". Any stories, anecdotes, quotes, pieces of advise, or anything at all you could give me would be really great and really appreciated! :)

Thank you so much for your feedback!!! :)

Happy Holidays!

Monday, December 7, 2009

Love At First Sight????

Hey guys,
It is no secret that I am a helpless romantic and therefor love the Cinderella ideals. I love the idea of dressing up, going to a ball, and falling in love with your Prince Charming the moment you meet him. But life is no fairytale... so, my question is: Do you know you're true love the moment you meet him/her? Did you know that the person was the one the first time you met them? I would love to hear your stories. When did you meet your husband/wife? Was it love at first sight? Or a gradual thing? Please let me know!

PS: Happy Holidays! :)

Thursday, November 5, 2009


Well, apparently I did not delete my first post... It wasn't there a half hour ago and now it is. I have no idea what happened, but I'm not complaining. Have a great day! :)

"We Carry On"

Hey Guys!
Well, I have no idea what happened, but I somehow coincidently deleted my last posts and all of the comments. I have no idea how it happened and have not yet found a way to get it back. I really appreciated those of you who commented and I am so sorry that your comments have been deleted, it was an accident. It's a huge bummer but I suppose we carry on. Which I suppose is fitting since today's topic is trials and suffering. This subject is not specific to married couples, but it is not something that goes away once you get married. Everyone has trials of different kinds. And for some people, that is marrying someone who turns out to be not what they expected. A girl in my class asked today: "Does this mean that some people are foreordained to marry bad people?" I'm not exactly sure how I feel about this. I do know that a woman I love and admire very much married someone that I believe to be a seriously disturbed man. That marriage caused many many trials for her. It was a difficult time for everyone involved-and I wish that those I love did not have to suffer. But I know that we have trials for a reason. I am extremely grateful for every trial I have had in my life. My trials have taught me so much and I feel closest to God while in the midst of a trial. So, are we foreordained to marry the wrong person, or is it all in the decisions we make? I don't know. And there are many times that I wish I could have a peak in to my future and know things like: if I will get married, when I will get married, the type of marriage I will have, the trials I will have. I know that I can't, and I know that my Heavenly Father knows me bes and he knows the plan better than I do. So in the mean time, I'm just doing the things that I know that I'm supposed to and waiting to see what happens.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this. What do you think?

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Learning to Live the Dream

Hey Guys!
Thanks so much for stopping in! I really appreciate it! I am currently taking a Preparation for Eternal Marriage class at BYU-Idaho. As a final project, I am required to compile articles on marriage, notes on things we've discussed in class, and my own thoughts. I've decided to put it in a blog so that I can get the comments by people who have actually had experience in this area. I would really appreciate comments from you guys. What you agree with, what you don't, what you have found works for you, absolutely anything!
Our "text book" for this class is a book called "One Flesh One Heart" by Dr. Carlfred Broderick. In our reading last night, I found a quote that really struck home with me: "Love is so fundamental a gospel principle that it is almost embarrassing to mention it. It is the single identifying quality of those who love the Lord and serve him- they love one another. (John 13:35.) My only contribution is to point out that this rule applies to the members of Christ's church even if they happen to be married to each other."
In this chapter it talked about controlling your anger. This is becoming a bigger and bigger problem in today's society because it is becoming so easy to justify it. "I'm Irish/ I have red hair/ I was provoked." There are thousands of ways to justify it, but does that make it right? It has been proven those that squash their anger instead of venting it are angry less. But everybody gets angry at times. So how do you handle it? What do you do when your spouse does those little things that bother you? How do you keep from exploding on your spouse without venting to your friends? Any advise?